Four tips for finding your groove.

Emphasis on YOUR:

  1. Sometimes dancing to someone else’s beat is enjoyable.  Sometimes it may actually make you want to just give up, and sit down.  When this happens, it is not your groove.
  2. We are social animals, not pack animals.  We are endowed with sapience (you know, homo sapien) for the figuring out of our own rhythm.  Make greater demands of yourself to live into the fullness of your capacity.  Originate.  Source.
  3. Repeated failures, delays and inconsolable frustrations might indicate the need for a new soundtrack.  You also might be invited to write and score it yourself.  In fact, this is highly likely.
  4. Develop a high tolerance for mystery and the unknown.  Personal liberation requires the courage to occasionally forsake the templates and advice of others (yes, even the very advice you are reading now).

You know what the difference is between pushing an elephant uphill, and slicing butter with a hot knife?  One is groovy, the other is not. 

I’ve spent a lot of years and energy trying to gather short-cuts and guidance on “how to” X, Y and Z.  It wasn’t until I decided to get guru-deviant… to turn completely within and listen to my flawless inner drummer, that I am finally returning to my jubilantly dancing self. 

 If you’ve been banging your head (instead of crowning it), or beating your chest (instead of listening to it) there is good news.  Despair, depression and hopelessness – when felt for any length of time – is a ruthless and radical cleanser.  Scrub-a-dub-dub-squeaky clean.  And clear.  It gifts you with a zero-tolerance for fake, cheap, knock-offs of any sort.  That kind of darkness can make you wild and bug-eyed.  It can sharpen your animal instincts, and bring you back to YOUR center.  All that static-noise that’s utterly void of value gets replaced with sacred silence, so you can hear you for a change.

Listen.

Bless your ears — your days – with your own song.

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4 Responses to “Four tips for finding your groove.”

  1. Molly Says:

    Love love love and needed this today. I like your term “guru deviant”…I have been trying to pull away from “self help” because it truly just makes me feel less-than and broken. I am not broken! I am WHOLE and viable and delicious :-). Thank you dear Erika .

  2. Deb Says:

    Erica,
    I was feeling drained today and your post showed up. I love “develop a high tolerance for the mystery” b/c I felt I was fighting it-yet I love it! I am in the mystery and I need to accept this to feel bliss each moment.
    Blessings, Deb

  3. Niki Says:

    “Despair, depression and hopelessness – when felt for any length of time – is a ruthless and radical cleanser….All that static-noise that’s utterly void of value gets replaced with sacred silence, so you can hear you for a change.”

    I love this so much Erika!
    thanks for writing and sharing this,
    it’s astonishing of how even we *can* turn depression into our most powerful tool to get us back on the *right* track! :)

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