Feeling lost? Lucky you!

I love when conversations pop.  Sizzle from meaningfulness.  Snap from right-on resonance.  Yes, someone else has that same hairy-fear… or grandiose goal.  Our quivering hopes and dares don’t alienate us.  They actually connect us.  Get that.

Anyway, I was enjoying one of those poppin’, sizzlin’, beautiful conversations-that-connect, and the (amazing, grounded, productive) person I was talking to said she felt lost.  She shows up for her (many) responsibilities.  She lives up to her own super-high standards of excellence.  And, despite all that, she feels lost.

I sat with that.  With her.  And, soon, these two thoughts rose in me:

  1. It is good to feel lost… because it proves you have a navigational sense of where “Home” is.  You know that a place that feels like being found exists.  And maybe your current location isn’t that place but, Hallelujah, that unsettled, uneasy feeling of lost-ness just brought you closer to it.
  2. The journey, ultimately, is inward.  So the gas-station attendant, or culture-at-large, or even your lover, career-counselor or parent, don’t have the most exquisite directions for you.  Their insight is based on their filtered interpretations.  Even as this blog post is based on my filtered interpretations.  Your most exquisite directions — the ones that will lead you to bliss that can be lived — will only reveal themselves through your filtered interpretations.

Filter.  Interpret.  And then go on your merry way.


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15 Responses to “Feeling lost? Lucky you!”

  1. Derrick Says:

    Good post! I was just commenting that those that are feeling lost or having a break down are close to having a break thru. It means that your heart is tugging you in a direction that may not be where you are today.

    Take time to peel back your layers to your inner self so you have a better sense of what your inner compass is telling you. This is not head centered, but more heart centered direction.

    In fact it’s an internal struggle between head centered (ego driven) thoughts vs. the heart centered (soul driven) direction that leads to your ultimate fulfillment.

  2. Jeannie Says:

    Good stuff. I’ve always been lost. Must less so in these present days, thankfully. At least 15 years ago I remember a conversation I had with my mother. I was depressed about my life. She said to me ‘you’ve got everything you ever wanted…your problem is you’re just never satisfied.’ She wasn’t entirely nice about this comment, either. She was a bit upset at me for ‘mentally’ putting myself in such a predicament when I had a good job, a house, a husband and a dog. After all, she thought it was all in my head!

    Ultimately, my mother died at the age of 50 from diabetes. Of course, diabetes has a little to do (if not a lot) with fear and not living a life of joy. She gave up. She never had much fun.

    As for me, I’m 35 and still lost. But I’ve realized that this journey will NEVER be complete. If you can get the knack of always staying in the present moment, you’ll have so much fun that it won’t matter that you haven’t reached your destination. Keep striving for that goal and you WILL reach it, but there will only be another goal right behind it. That is only, however, if you’re lost. Everyone is lost, to a degree, or in some particular area. If they say they are complete and have everything they need or desire, it is my humble opinion that they are masking their lives and pretending that they have reached their final destination. Where’s the fun in that?

    Or…maybe they’ve reached full-on enlightenment!. If so, congratz and I’m on my way!!!

    Love this blog!!! :)

    • Erika Harris Says:

      “this journey will NEVER be complete.” From one timeless, eternal soul to another, I totally agree, Jeannie. Life isn’t a race to speed through. I prefer to saunter and twirl and dance while on my purposeful path… which, of course, twists and bends. Much more country-road, than expressway :-)

      I applaud you for integrating all of life’s stuff… the shadows, the criticisms, the loss… and serving it up as something that nourishes.

  3. Terri Says:

    Wonderful post, glad to have stumbled upon it tonight. Thanks for reminding us that getting lost is just part of the journey.

  4. meorthethoughtofme Says:

    Man, oh man though, is the feeling of being lost gut-wrenching. I am closer to my authentic self than ever before, but I know realize that this feeling of being lost is now a *physical* matter. I just don’t feel very at home in the city we’re located. And I’m aching to to not have that lost feeling any more and return to where I know will be a good home for my family.

    • Erika Harris Says:

      What you say, Alisha, reminds me of the tag-line of your blog: “Trying to find my place in the world.”

      You are so courageous… to pay attention as closely as you do to those informative aches and wrenches. They are like little maps, really…

  5. Josh Hanagarne Says:

    If I always knew where I was, I think I’d get bored pretty quick:) Good stuff, my friend.

  6. Dawn Lennon Says:

    A wonderful positive look at times we tend to see as negative. I love your insight that feeling lost means you have a “navigational sense” of where home is…that’s just lovely. A full life is about discovery. I don’t know too any discoverers who didn’t spent a great deal of time lost. Journeys that deliver discoveries within are the ones that help us make sense of everything else.

    Thanks for a wonderful post. I found it by “accident” or actually by good fortune on Twitter.

    ~Dawn (@businessfit on Twitter)

  7. Deb/AskYourSpirit.com Says:

    Hi Erika, so many good posts to read!
    I have been feelin lost which is why I have not visited. However, I have moments of feeling answers and I know that I am in a metamorphosis because of a death in the family. Your site is awesome and I will visit often for spiritual food for my soul!
    Blessings, Deb

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