Can you love “possibilities” too much?


* Post 5 in a 30-day experiment
focused on magnetizing essence! *

On page 14 of the book I’m reading for this experiment, visualizing is defined as “using your imagination to picture what you want in advance of getting it.”

But what if you have too many pictures?  What if your imagination is so enamored with all of life’s wonderful possibilities, that you accidentally took residence in limbo so you could enjoy thinking about The Options, without ever making real decisions about them?

That’s the block I uncovered in today’s reading:  indecision.  It wasn’t until I sat to do a visualization exercise that I noticed what a hard time I had choosing something specific to visualize.

I looked up the etymology of the word “decide,” and found the root of the word means “to cut.”  Deciding one thing, cuts away other things.  Indecision doesn’t cut anything away, but it doesn’t lay claim to anything, either.  This has been a lifelong pattern of mine… taking too much delight in the idea of many things, rather than the actuality of fewer things.  Enough!

This feels like a eureka-breakthrough-epiphany, to see my indecision — and reluctance to commit — so clearly.  I don’t like the fuzzy results this has brought me, and I don’t like the weak life-stance it creates.  What I would prefer, and therefore now choose, is to practice decisiveness by focusing on the claimed thing rather than the cut things.

This, already, is beginning to feel like the difference between a fire-hose and a low-impact shower-head.

Goodbye indecision.  I caught you hiding out in my corners, hoping I wouldn’t see you.  But I did.  And you’re no longer welcome here, you coward.  Go tremble somewhere else.

Yeah!  Another block blasted.


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4 Responses to “Can you love “possibilities” too much?”

  1. Margaret Says:

    I find this to be very insigtful and a great recommendation for ‘cutting’ away the clutter that houses itself in our minds. Thumbs up to you for your self-discovery. When I have read books on visualization and heard the advice from people who practice it effectively, one thing they share in common is clear direction. They share precise decision. They may not know how to travel the path towards the realism of their decision but they know what they want.

    • Erika Harris Says:

      “They share precise decision. They may not know how to travel the path towards the realism of their decision but they know what they want.” This is pretty much genius, Margaret. You summed up, so succintly, what has only taken me 39 years to start to figure out. LOL! I hope you’ll stick around to share more insight like that.:-)

  2. Allison Says:

    This is a great realization. I was reading last night and trying to do the exercise and felt a little overwhelmed with all the ideas and “things” that popped in to my head. Thank you for sharing.

    • Erika Harris Says:

      I empathize, Allison! I’ve noticed that just one day into my making the decision to be more decisive (!) is already starting to soften and minimize those multi-thought-poppers. I’m so glad you’re doing this too! Hope to hear more how the process unfolds for you.

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