“Erika, I’d like you to meet my soon-to-be-ex-husband, Rick…”
I was at a tantric workshop, and this super-evolved couple befriended me. I was a little surprised by the introduction… and even more so by the deep and obvious care they continued to share… they way they doted upon each other: “Oh, I see your tea is empty… let me refill that for you, Dear.”
They had shared 30 years in marriage, 7 children and an interdependence that many happy couples might not even have. Despite this, though, they mutually agreed they would be better apart, than together. But what made them so outstanding in my mind was their commitment to bless their separation from each other. They were receiving tantric counseling to help them go far beyond the typical “closure” of failed relationships and marriages. They did very courageous inner-work to create and sustain healing in the midst of divorce’s chaotic pain.
I certainly hope I won’t have to practice the wisdom I learned from this couple, but I am grateful to have witnessed it. Conscious love, at the end of a relationship.