“Erika, I’d like you to meet my soon-to-be-ex-husband, Rick…”
I was at a tantric workshop, and this super-evolved couple befriended me. I was a little surprised by the introduction… and even more so by the deep and ovbious care they continued to share… they way they doted upon each other: “Oh, I see your tea is empty… let me refill that for you, Dear.”
They had shared 30 years in marriage, 7 children and an interdependence that many happy couples might not even have. Despite this, though, they mutually agreed they would be better apart, than together. But what made them so outstanding in my mind was their determination to bless their separation from each other. They were receiving tantric counseling to help them go far beyond the typical “closure” of failed relationships and marriages. They did very courageous inner-work to create and sustain healing in the midst of divorce’s chaotic pain.
I certainly hope I won’t have to practice the wisdom I learned from this couple, but I am grateful to have witnessed it. Conscious love, at the end of a relationship.
Copyright © Erika Harris
Tags: breaking up, divorce, marriage, relationships, tantra, tantric
August 7, 2008 at 12:19 pm |
The practice of conscious love is beautiful. And the practice of unconditional love as well. What an incredible example of unconditional love that you witnessed!
My husband and I are Tantra teachers. For anyone interested, we do OmBliss Tantra Kriya Yoga Workshops and Retreats around the world, holding space for unconditional love and self growth.
Blessed be,
Chelsea & Rafael
May 28, 2009 at 3:09 pm |
Thanks for sharing this link Erica – indeed it is only in separating cleanly that we can truly be empowered to move forward and create from a sacred space of clarity and joy the lives that we are dreaming.
August 11, 2009 at 5:51 pm |
This sounds just like my ex-husband and I! Once we’d agreed to separate, we remained such good friends that people meeting us for the first time were astounded to learn that we were in the process of getting divorced. He’s still one of my best friends today and it’s thanks to him, his IT skills and his amazing generosity that I have my website.
Thanks for this link, Erica :)